How to be a loser
A great read. Posting it to remind myself to read again.
http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loserIt reveals both my strong points and weak points.
A loser rests on his laurels. I once asked a winner — a smart, healthy, happy guy worth more than twenty million dollars — to name his greatest accomplishment, and he said “I haven’t done anything yet.” A bit of rhetorical flare there, but the point is that a loser has the opposite attitude: he is constantly recalling his latest accomplishment, either publicly (usually wrapped in modesty or nonchalance) or to himself.
It’s a common misconception, I think, to assume that losers are unhappy, or that they invariably have a low self-esteem. Quite the contrary: losers keep their egos fat with constant snacks. And they’re all the more satiable as they age.
One important thing I have learnt to keep my ego in check is to ask close friends and let them criticize me freely. Strike me hard and real, then I am out of my fantasy.